120 Reflections of a Growing Black Woman



At the beginning of 2020, before the UK really knew the extent of Covid 19, I decided to embark on a monthly reflective journey.


Sharing with social media my 10 most important and prevailing thoughts of each month. This was one of the goals I set for myself, was to be more reflective and increase the frequency of my reflective habits.


I also wanted to increase my interactions on social media as well as injecting a more of a story telling approach on the profiles in the hope of building social rapport and connection to my products, emotional support services and workshops.


2020 was the year of clear vision, alignment and making ultimate connections or in some cases a well needed disconnection - it did exactly that.

The global Lockdown created the solitude, time and space to rethink and reflect on the different areas in my life that needed change


With the turn of a new decade, I wanted to make sure that my visions were kept clear and my intentions were vivid and somewhat lucid, starting the year and next 10 years as I want to continue them.


2020 really was the year of ultimate reflections and from it I created a list of 120 things 2020 taught me about myself. Over the course of each month, I shared 10 reflections of each month on Instagram and Facebook and by December 2020, I had the completed list.


I decided to use social media as my accountability because once it is out there, it is out there. I felt that it would help and encourage others to be more attentive to their days, weeks and months.







I tracked my thoughts, feelings and interactions with the intention of exploring the gaps in my life and finding solutions to build a better version of myself.


In order to move forward, I know that i must look back and one thing I intend to do is to continue heading in the direction that is paved just for me.


Planning and aligning for the forthcoming journey includes me acknowledging and accepting the steps and process that got me here.


'Reflections of a Growing Black Woman' was born out of my intentions for 2020 but what came out of it was so much more than a set of 10 reflections for each month.


It birthed a healing practice that built my confidence, increased my motivation and honed in on my focus - tunnel vision!

I shared my inner thoughts, emotions, highs and wrongs with the world - I was powerfully vulnerable and I own it all as I continue to fight for my freedom from emotional silencing.


Thank you 2020, you elevated me into the Growing Black Woman I am today!





J A N U A R Y R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Listen to your body

2. Live in abundance everyday⠀


3. Be thankful for what you have

4. Not EVERY offer needs to be taken⠀


5. Put yourself in motion⠀


6. Have faith it will work out

7. Meditation really does help⠀


8. Grant yourself time to be vulnerable⠀


9. Accept help when offered⠀


10. You have the same hours in a day as everyone else⠀


F E B R U A R Y R E F L E C T I O N S

1. You are making things happen⠀

2. Write things down so you don't forget

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3. You are doing just fine⠀

4. Dont rush! Patience is a virtue⠀

5. Everyday count towards something⠀

6. Try not to overwhelm yourself⠀

7. It's all about my perception⠀⠀


8. Sometimes you go back to go forward⠀⠀


9. Make the effort to make an effort⠀⠀


10. Smiling can change the whole game⠀⠀


M A R C H R E F L E C T I O N S

1. I am happy to be healthy⠀


2. It is okay to feel all the feelings


3. I am working better with my emotions

4. Take time to wake up and reset⠀


5. I am still healing, the process will be rocky⠀


6. I chose to limit what is in my world ⠀


7. Change is unfamiliar, but a well needed chance

8. Working on something constructive is a must⠀


9. Prepare for what is to come but also just BE⠀


10. Listen to my needs, help others listen to theirs too⠀


A P R I L R E F L E C T I O N S

1. My view of perfect balance is all that matters⠀


2. Trust my own instincts, have blind faith in myself⠀


3. Push forward past my fear barrier⠀


4. Utilise and optimise this solitude time⠀


5. Investment comes in all forms, most important is in the mind⠀


6. I am happy while I am in full creative service⠀


7. Being connected makes me feel alive⠀


8. One thing at a time, one step at a time. Patience darling.⠀


9. It is okay to miss things and people⠀


10. Breathe in as many ways I know how⠀


M A Y R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Be careful of what you ask for as you may well receive it. Be prepared for the blessings coming⠀


2. Put your energy into a variety of your passions. Multipotentialites exist! ⠀⠀


3. Being present for others is as nurturing as being present for yourself⠀⠀


4. Remain a humble student to become a great teacher⠀


5. Lessons are blessings, end of story⠀


6. Speak your truth and you will be heard⠀

7. Invest more time into your legacies⠀

8. Values can change over time, remain constant in your observation to add new values⠀


9. Take your own advice, be scared and do it anyway

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10. You are striding in your lane, own it, embrace it, take a mental picture to remember it if you ever doubt yourself again⠀




J U N E R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Channel my energy into something positive⠀


2. It is okay to be angry, it's my feelings⠀


3. Call out b.s from the people closest to me⠀


4. Don't force something that doesn't serve the now⠀


5. Not every hurdle has to be managed with force, gentle does the job too⠀


6. Nature is the purest form of truth⠀


7. When I cannot speak, I write!⠀


8. Remaining hopeful is the one thing I can control⠀


9. Give more to those who need and deserve it⠀


10. Loosing myself means that I can find a new me⠀


J U L Y R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Putting in the hours pays off. Do it at my pace, it is not a race. ⠀


2. I have the ability to take the advice I give to others.⠀


3. I love to challenge myself at learning new things. ⠀


4. Different methods of breathwork helps me better control what I feel in my body⠀⠀


5. I am becoming more assertive and standing firmer in my power⠀

6. Sometimes something has to be sacrificed. And that is okay! ⠀⠀


7. If I persevere when I feel like giving up, the wins will be even sweeter at the end⠀⠀


8. My passion cannot be yielded by anyone but me.⠀⠀


9. The more I learn, the more I know less than I thought I knew. There is beauty in learning⠀⠀


10. Making regular 'me' time slots in my day really makes a difference⠀


A U G U S T R E F L E C T I O N S

1. I have the ability to unfold any idea at the pace I want⠀


2. While I heal, I help to heal others⠀


3. I am in the right position to leave my legacy as I see fit⠀


4. I am proud of the woman I am becoming⠀


5. My body is stronger than I give myself credit for⠀


6. I have learnt some valuable life long skills⠀


7. I vow to continue to learn and thrive⠀


8. There is so much maturity and growth and it is beginning to show⠀


9. Enhanced communication and perspective is priceless⠀


10. I am becoming more comfortable with the things that have previously made me uncomfortable.⠀


S E P T E M B E R R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Change is inevitable⠀


2. Not everyone will understand me or my path and that is fine⠀


3. I am growing to new levels, I am positioning myself to receive⠀


4. Life presents options that I can explore all, if I choose⠀


5. Building sustained connections is one of my drawbacks I need to work on⠀


6. Learning to practice what I preach shows me humility⠀


7. I have to trust that others will have my back the way I have theirs

8. Showing up for myself in private is more important than when in public⠀


9. I am the product of my ancestors legacy⠀


10. Pay attention to the power of my words, they possess unimaginable properties⠀




O C T O B E R R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Learning is a process of uncomfortabilty that I am willing to go through⠀


2. Only I can judge me and even those judgements can be wrong

3. Say what I mean and mean what I say⠀


4. My attitude can permeate a room⠀


5. I measure my successes and failures with compassion ⠀


6. Not everyone knows how to experience shared happiness and that is okay⠀


7. My truth will be my weapon and my armour⠀


8. I have a responsibility to level up in my own time⠀


9. Capture more moments when they are created

10. I am paying attention more to when silence is needed


N O V E M B E R R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Humility allows me to see everyone as human. I wholly welcome the flawed and imperfect commonalities


2. Cutting ties with someone should be a last, yet often necessary, resort for my wellbeing


3. Life is too short to be miserable with others or myself


4. I choose to exercise forgiveness because I refuse to harbour resentment


5. I exude the quality standard that I wish to receive from those around me


6. Hold on, pain really does end


7. I am the missing piece to puzzles in multiple peoples lives


8. If I don't ask, I will not be in the right position to receive my blessings


9. Practicing to master blind faith can be the only means of survival I have


10. Trust in my judgement and do not allow others to negatively sway my decisions


D E C E M B E R R E F L E C T I O N S

1. Worry less and do more about the controllables


2. This life is coming into alignment for the next life


3. I am prepared for the change coming and I am carefully fine tuning the superpowers within


4. I am proud of myself for making it through this year and helping others do the same


5. My knowledge and it's application are the keepsakes that I choose to equip myself with


6. Hibernation is my protection, it brings me peace and clarity and I can take it at anytime


7. My wounds are still present but I am committed to emotional healing


8. 2020 has been a year of clear vision and inquisitiveness


9. Continue learning how to break the karmic cycles in silence


10. Making 'self' a priority is the generational tradition I plan to pass on



With love, forever learning AND growth


#reflectionsofagrowingblackwoman


Rhyana XOXOXO

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